When I was little, my pre-K teacher was
trying to explain to my class where babies
come from—which, of course, is not an easy
topic. She told us that babies come from their
mommy’s tummy and I raised my hand and
said, “No, I don’t come from my mommy’s
tummy. I come from my friend Rebecca’s
tummy.” My parents always tell me that story.
They love it and think it’s so funny.
3What is the nature of the relationship between your
parents and birth parents?
Natalie: We’re all kind of one big family. I’ll
come home from school and my mom will be
talking to my birth mom. I know there have
been times when my mom has helped my
birth mom out with, just, life and situations
Gabriel: We have this great relationship. We
go over and have dinner, or she comes over
and has dinner, about once every month or
two. We play board games or just have fun,
Darcy: My birth parents and my parents
don’t really talk all the time, but, when they
do, it’s usually planning when I’m going to
see my birth parents. There is contact for
birthdays and holidays and milestones.
Nathan: The four of them are friends. My
birth dad lives in Australia, so I can’t really
see him as much as I’d like to, but my birth
mom lives nearby. I see her a lot.
Claire: My adoptive parents and my birth
mom have a very good relationship. My birth
mom has always been a little shy, and I think
that I get that from her. But my mom is really
good at talking to her and keeping the communication lines open and fluid. And, now
that I’m 22 years old, I can do that on my own.
Justin: My parents and birth parents have always been able to have a good relationship.
This may be because my birth parents are
younger. My birth parents were always invited to things when I was growing up, and
my parents always welcomed them with open
arms. Even now that I’m an adult, my parents
will still invite my birth parents to events and
Brianna: We’re family. I would say that they
have formed a very strong friendship, but that
doesn’t even begin to cover what we have. We
really are a family.
4How would you describe your elationship with your birth
parents? Your birth family?
Taylor: I love my birth mom. She’s like my
big sister. She’s very open with me; I can ask
her about anything, which is really helpful
to me. I know that she’ll be there for me if I
need her. It’s really comforting to know that
I can talk to not just my mom, my adopted
mom, but also to my birth mom.
Nathan: It goes deeper than friendship. They
are my best friends. They’re such incredible
people, and real inspirations for me.
Brianna: We visit during the year when we
can. During the summer I usually fly out and
see my birth family. My parents might come
for some of the time, and then I spend some
time with them on my own and we do nor-
“We have tons of photos of my birth
family all over the house, as well as
a lot of things they have given me
over the years.” —NATHAN, 17