IN EVERY ISSUE
4 ...... FROM THE EDITOR
5 ...... LETTERS
6 ...... ASK AF
7 ...... PHOTO CONTEST WINNERS: Holidays
8 ...... PARENT-TO-PARENT: What was the hardest and
most unexpected part of your adoption process?
10 .... AF PICKS: Notable New Reads
12 .... NEWS BRIEFS: Depression screening recommended for new adoptive parents; intercountry
adoption and state laws updates.
14 .... Raising a Sound Sleeper
Dreaming of a good night’s rest? A doctor
recommends sleep strategies for parents
who adopt newborns and older children.
16 LIVING WITH DIVERSITY
To the White Parents of My Black
Please talk to your child about racism. Ask him to
stand with my son if he sees him being bullied, called
names, or the police drive by, entreats this mom.
18 OUR STORY
Bringing Him Home
The medical report described a healthy little boy who
could speak in full sentences. So who was this eerily
quiet toddler who could barely walk? Their son.
21 PARENTING THE CHILD WHO WAITED
“Here’s How You Can Support Us”
A mom who adopted two older children shares what
she wishes she’d said to well-intentioned but clueless
friends and family.
42 AT HOME
An Open Letter to Gramma B.
“You and I cautiously opened our hearts to this
relationship and learned how an open adoption can
work. Only recently have we truly realized how much
we all need you...we hope it’s not too late.”
ON THE COVER:
Owen ( 4, U.S.), son of Cecilia
and Jonathan Davis. Photograph
by Front Room Photography.
25 Everything You Ever Wanted BY JILLIAN LAUREN
In this excerpt from an inspiring, hilarious new memoir by a mother who adopted from Ethiopia,
she details the practical adjustments they made in their daily lives that wrought life-changing
progress for their son with special needs. PLUS: Q&A with the author, BY SHARON VAN EPPS
30 Adoptees on Open Adoption: “I Have All My Pieces” Teens and young adults who grew up in fully open adoptions discuss their relationships with their
adoptive and birth families and the many benefits openness has brought them.
36 Going “Home” to China, Again BY MELISSA LUDTKE, JENNIE YUCHANG LYTEL-STERNBERG, AND MAYA XIA LUDTKE
A decade after a birth country visit that was too much, too soon for a seven-year-old, she and a
friend returned as teens on their own terms. Spending time with girls who grew up there helped
them envisage what their lives might have been, and explore their Chinese and American identities.